if it’s for fun’s sake it’s acceptable and alright for me, and not when one party gets serious and the whole relationship will be so messy!! So complicated so messy and everyone sulks. Not healthy.

Ahhh Pooson, Pooson. No matter what the ground rules are, it is inevitable that both sides will get jealous at one point or another. As long you have some sort of attachment to the person, it is never easy to see them with someone else…even if you are dating someone else lol. I think we are just territorial by nature.

i think it means..guys are free to open other ladies’ skit and panties and gals are free to open their legs apart

Ya definitely not cheating, look at the positive side…both are trying to improve their skill before pleasing each other.

i’ll kill whoever touches my girl.

yeah i think i can handle it.

Wow, I am impressed that you are writing so honestly and comfortably about this subject, especially for heterosexual people!

I think open relationships are more common for gay men in long term relationships, more than people may realize. It is definitely not for everyone, and feelings can easily get hurt. But it works for some.

My own experience with this has convinced me that people would be less uptight in general, whether they are straight or gay, if they could have safe and appropriate releases for their sexual urges. Many people would be happier if they could just “get some,” on a regular basis.

Did’ja ever read the futuristic “Brave New World,” and how everyone would hook up with a different person every night? Sometimes I wonder how far our modern societies are headed in that direction.

How many of you out there have been in a committed relationship for a while, but don’t get enough sex?

lol! i dont think its cool making rules in front of each other’s faces! i guess you’ll know when your partner wants to take it seriously or just for fun~ then play it that way; if you can’t take it, leave it. (?) kekeke….

Aisehhh…. Aisehhhhhh…. Aiseehhhhhhhhhhhh…. haha, ok cut the crap.

Hmmm…. I think if I am in a relationship which I am 100% committed, I wont do that lor. But if I am single, I think it is always good to make “more friends.”

Oh, the key is —-> “Is it possible to be 100% committed?” Wukakaka….

On a serious note, dun regret what you do and be responsible for the consequences (if anything bad happen). If you can take it, then do it. Is your life, and no one can interfere with it My 1 cent worth. hahaha

[michy]
ooOoo , someone is sporting
but really, I guess a smart person knows when to pull out …

[ee]
ee ! long time never see !
you sound experienced ? about being territorial, I think I’ve stopped being the jealous type … maybe it’s just me.

[x]
YES ! I agree ! to learn more skillz!

[sewjin]
haha , you just finding excuse to kill other people!

[Peter Varvel]
I think I’m a bit more open minded in relationships, so yeah, I guess I can talk about these things.

Yes, I’ve heard about so called ‘infidelity’ among gay men, but it’s actually consensual right?

Yes I do agree that the uptightness in a relationship might lead to future problems, such as straying in the mid-life crisis.

As for your final question, I think Asians in general don’t get enough sex

[Miss C]
HA ! you’re the type of girl that leaves a guy guessing ! SCARY

[Princess Eileen]
Now I know why you always Aiseh

I like how you put the “” around the word “more friends” .. heheheheehe …

Being a traditionalist, I naturally assume that one would have to be in a committed relationship before engaging in any couple-like behaviour. The reason for this is that I do not simply view holding hands, or kissing, as something merely for fun. It signifies attachment, and every kiss that is stolen (so to speak, since in an open relationship it does -not- signify attachment) takes away something from that significance.

What happens when someone goes through too many relationships? They find they become jaded and have little in the way of heart material left to give away. I believe the same is true of ‘open relationships’: only the participants willfully give away the actions that emotionally cement a couple together.

The separation of emotion from action, while being in a relationship, to me sounds like trying to have your cake and eating it too. If you can’t back up your actions with commitment, don’t do them.

But then I’m an old fogey.

i think there’s only one conclusion to it… trouble…

relationship is a delicate thing and the heart’s direction can be difficult to control… when your heart moves… it spells trouble… for both.

but certainly… open relationship can be … fun.

Open relationships should come with boundaries…like the agreement to see someone only once or don’t brink him/her home. It works for some couples.

I’m a traditionalist (aka old-fashioned) so I don’t believe in open-relationships. That’s i.n.f.i.d.e.l.i.t.y!

Hmmm yeah, i’m traditionalist.

Apart from that, I’m nt getting any younger. If we want to remain in an Open Relationship, how long more do you want to engage in any more till the time you want to actually find one that you want to spend the rest of your life with?

Sometimes our reputation precedes us. If we find one that we like, and they come to hear of our reputation, they will think twice before wanting to involved with us. However if they know that we are the serious type, they will treat us seriously as well.

Agree?

Hi Jason

I think, most relationships are actually ‘open relationships’, anyway. Why? Altho’ the parties don’t actually declare to each other that what they have is an open relationship, how they carry on may tells different story.

I think a relationship does not became an open relationship simply because the parties christen it as such. It becomes an open relationship once one of the parties start fooling around until he or she gets caught. Then it becomes a failed relationship.

Wow! What a long reply. Sorry.

heya, long time. augh! it was hell week at the office. anyway, i’m glad that’s all over now. hahaha! good to be blogging again.

moving on, open relationships? hmm, i know some people who are in one. but personally, i don’t think i can be in an open relationship. i’ll be too jealous and the thought of sharing my loved one with another person is enough to drive me up the wall. but that’s just me.

cheers, mate.

i think if whoever who is having an open r’ship means that they both don’t really love each other as much.. they might like each other and all but they are not so committed.. i mean, come on.. how can u see your bf/gf going out with someone else??

or am i old-fashion? hmmmm….

haha , seems the first half of the comments are ok or ambigous about it . but the second half disagrees …

hmmm

Jason,
(as I will always say this).. Everyone will have their own opinions. We can tell you the good and the bad of it, but in the end you’d still have to make your own choices. As with choices, comes the consequences.

Part of growing up to be a WO/MAN is also learning to face up the consequences of the choices that we have made. I agree with Leyon. You can’t have your cake and eat it.

How can married couples stay with each other unless they decide to commit and stay faithful to each other? Its either one or the other. You just have to choose. There is no in-between.