let anger run its course
Most people that have met me will know that I am a very peaceful and non-confrontational person. Some might say that I am very zen-like, and believe things will always turn out for the better.
Today I slammed doors, played my angry college music and shouted into pillows. It felt GREAT.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m just angry at myself. Some of you may know that I am in an ‘open relationship’ where my significant other is currently seeing someone else. Most days I can handle this truth, because I was the one who suggested this kind of relationship in the first place.
Not today.
There were just too many cases of “I don’t miss you because I have a boyfriend” -or- “I can’t go out with you because I have dinner with him”. More than I can handle for now.
My first reaction was to let my anger grow like poison. Thinking of ways to get back, to get even. To hurt her, just because I was hurt myself. Even though it’s not entirely her fault.
I slept over it, hoping these bitter feelings would go away. The next morning I still felt the same. So I let anger run its course, hopefully channeling my anger somewhere else. Like playing guitar, drawing or writing this blog entry.
I’ve given into wrath enough, and I’m now exhausted.
I’m going to take a nap now.
Poor Jason Phoon. It sucks when things backfire. Perhaps its time to call it quits.
jp: well, I dono about that …
Look on the bright side: this is much better for your recovering penis. Seriously, chill out and see a movie. Just make sure it’s not one of those sappy love movies. See something violent and bloody.
jp: I watched Rescue Dawn, that was pretty violent and bloody. Not to mention funny too ..
Here’s a silent thought for ya, mate.
“Anger is punishing oneself for the mistakes of others.”
Don’t punish yourself yo!
jp: You’re right. I shouldn’t be too hard on myself … Until get fever oh !
[...] Fellow blogger mr jp’s story is a bit different, I don’t think his case should be classified under “Significant Other” since he did mention that he is in an open relationship thingie. Do check out his story in the following linkie: http://jasonphoon.com/let-anger-run-its-course/ [...]
Do what I do mate, hit the gym hard. At least you’ll get fit.
jp: I can’t hit the gym after the surgery ! lol
Must be the circumcision thingy taking effect on poor JP
jp: Naah, but it is contributing to the annoyances ..
it is time to take it to the street and start burning public goods liao …arson …yay!!!!!
if you wanna go out with your sarong to burn up something, come me in …:P
jp: Haha, sounds like a good idea ! SARONG REVOLUTION
surprising because i thought the girl would usually be the one to go insane first.
jp: Well, I guess it’s my turn now … you know, it switches.
it’s no use 4 me 2 say much bout it… Cool down dude.
jp: thanks ! hehe
poor u! don’t let it affect the stitches alrite? btw, mayb it’s time to make things straight
jp: Time for the talk . eh ? hmmm
u hav fallen into ur own trap! well, if that is the case…i guess no point to stay ‘together’ again…
jp: Hmmmm , hard to say eh ..
chou chou woah … dont sulk, ur loved ^_^ hehe
jp: You really brightened my lousy day … ^__^
don’t hate me for saying this, but i think what you really have to deal with here is whether you’re okay with the whole open relationship setup or not. if you’re reacting the way you are, then something’s not right. you either ask for exclusivity or you continue with the open relationship setup and continue to feel that way (at least, every now and then.) last time i checked, it’s not in the relationship checklist to consider “getting even.”
i know, i know. easier said than done. but you’ll know what to do, jp.
jp: Yeah, I’m just not thinking properly at the moment. I still haven’t dealt with it yet ..
bro, you shoulda called me! let’s meet for lunch and just hang out.. just the 2 of us and 1 cup………………..
jp: I bet you went home and watched the whole video ! haha
Still sleeping? Guess you are no more qualified to be in an open relationship as you are reacting negatively to it. In the end…like i always like to say to myself, ‘Life goes on…”. Cheers!
jp: Time to find someone new you mean ?
Farah! I DEMAND you now speak of rainbows and unicorns to make up for that horrible, horrible reference.
Jason. Relationships are complicated. You know, like the quantum mechanics of spin-2 massless particles and its relation to the structure of gravity; only more complicated.
I suggest you pray to Dr. Phil. He has ALL the answers.
jp: I showed her the video, and she coudln’t last 5 seconds of it. Dr Phil ? I’d rather watch 2girls1cup anytime than listen to him
haiyaH! what “open relationship” thing laaa… better get off it now, dude! back to Malaysia should be HAPPY! whatcha doiN? WAKE UP!!! -_____-”
wait i go back KL save u. HAHAHA!!! q:
jp: Hehe, I can’t enjoy myself now that I have a fever
How are you going to save me ? Ok, I’m a little scared now…
Sometimes matters of the heart go against rationality and what would otherwise seem to be ‘common sense’; it’s the nature of the beast. Good luck with the DTR talk.
jp: Especially when women are involved.. no rationality .. Haha
I think it’s a cycle and it gets back at you somehow or rather… If you think that she replaceable then you could ‘move on’ and get someone new
jp: Replaceable ? naah …