If your whole life revolves around your significant other, you have to rethink your priorities. If a guy/girl comes into your life and turns it around, what does that say about your life ? Does this mean it was empty and meaningless before she came into your life ? If your answer is yes, there might be something wrong with you.

I had a friend who asked his girlfriend to run away from home. He said he’ll take care of her and pay for her college tuition fees. All this when he was only 21 years old. Man, he couldn’t even keep a steady job for a month ! Fortunately the girl wasn’t stupid enough to believe him and she broke up with him a month later.

Or another one, where he used to say “I will love you forever”, and go broke buying stuff for his girlfriend. All with his parents money!

Or the one who said “My life is meaningless” after his girlfriend left him. Then he found another one and he said the same thing. Get a fucking clue!

Anyways my point is, if you can’t even take care of yourself, how can you take care of somebody else?

A girl ain’t gonna fix your problems and she sure ain’t gonna rely on you for security if you’re not independent (emotionally or financially). Somewhere along the line, a whole generation of guys have lost their balls and turned into so called “sensitive new age guys”. I have the right to call them that, because I used to be one.

It’s true, I used to be a needy, jealous, self-sympathizing, emotional black-hole of a person. Some of my ex-girlfriends can attest to that, and boy did I give them shit. I’m so sorry about that, and you girls would be so proud that I grew out of that teenage angst. I’m definitely in a happier place right now.

In fact, I’m more selfish these days. Apparently, girls like a little backbone in their men!

What I learned over the years is that, you have to fix your own problems first, think about your future, and focus on what makes you happy. The center of your life is you, not your religion, not your job, not your computer games, not your possessions and certainly not your significant other. Hard to accept, but it’s true. None of these things will fix you if you don’t’ want to fix yourself.

Which brings me to lesson number 2 of the manifesto:

2) the center of the universe is you

Everything else will flow from there.

Guy likes girl, girl likes guy. Girl knows guy is interested, so maybe she plays hard to get. Guy tries a little harder, but not too much to scare her away. If guy seems to lose interest, girl pulls him back in, only to rip his heart out. Girl finds another guy.

It’s all a fucking game, don’t you think?

Everybody plays it, whether they know it or not. If you don’t play, you end up losing. How do you lose?:

• you get your heart ripped out
• you enter the “friend” zone
• you get used

So I was chatting with James and Leon the other day and decided that we’re sick of losing the game. And so forms the first principle of our manifesto:

1) Everybody plays the game, whether they know it or not. If you don’t, you’ve already lost.

Sick of losing? Well start playing.