all the best cowboys have daddy issues
While having breakfast with Stephanie today, I got a harsh reminder that I’m starting to turn out like my dad. Dont’ get me wrong, he’s not a bad person but I’ve always resented taking on his bad habits.
For example, Stephanie was talking about how bad her week went, and I couldn’t really listen or emphatize with her. She got quite angry because no one likes talking to a wall. That’s the same feeling I get when I talk to my dad, it’s like he doesn’t listen or even try to understand. All he does is come to his own conclusion and you kinda get pissed with his simplistic conclusion.
I mean, I know he’s experienced in life and all, but we all come to our own conclusions right ? All I wanna do is just be heard, or understood. And I’m so pissed that I myself cannot be understanding to the person I care for the most.
The other big gripe about my dad is that he’s too nice. I know what ya’ll are thinking, that the world needs more nice people right? Well, there is a fine line by being a nice person and being a person that people take advantage of. My dad is the latter.
So when I find myself being taken advantage of, the first person I blame is my dad. Because he’s always taught me to be kind and nice to everyone. Well, some people just don’t deserve being nice to. That’s why I have a black list of ex-friends (okay, just 3) which I dub “emotional vampires”. All they do is suck the living optimism out of you and are a pain to have around. Have any of those kinda friends around ? Well ditch them. You’ll feel better immediately.
I know it’s unfair to blame my dad about these kinda things. But I just feel he’s too soft. Maybe it’s an inherent desire to be as different from your parents as you can be? Something about evolution and genetic variation ?
As different as I want to be , the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
He just told me recently that when he was studying in Taiwan, he had 3 girlfriends at the same time. And he was bald. Jeebus! I thought I was cool when I did those things. I’m just like my dad, after all. Well, I’m cooler cause he doesn’t have a tattoo.
Perhaps one day I’ll learn to aquire the best traits of my dad, and also learn from his mistakes. Then I’ll be the best person I can be and make peace with him after all.
i understand how u feel… like how u tell yourself you’d nvr become like this or such but one day you wake up and hey, that’s you.
we share a mutual emotional vampire i believe… :p
yet, it’s great that you’re handling it maturely; the last paragraph is testament to it.
in observation, i find you a good listener anyhow… maybe you were thinking of your next spongebob episode that time…
aww,your right,there’s a fine line btwn being nice and being a push-over. im on the same boat as well. ppl tend to think im nice enough to help them then slowly they take advantage of me. kinda trying to be a lil mean now. as in when i said no means no!
normally, this kinda characteristics codes are due to natural selection which is the environment you grew up in. thats how its inherited. you can be different if you want to! all things are possible.
though i only known u through this, i think your a pretty nice guy,julian as well.take it easy,smile smile and think of happy thoughts :p
ooh i play dota too.got influence by dan and friends.lolz
ps : ignore the bio fact thing.trying to practise application so that i be prepared for exams. sighs..
omg so it’s not just me!! i think you don’t empathise with me too.. esp when my stomach ache first started.. you kept talking about other stuff.. i was like o_O but i thought you were trying to distract me from the pain. then it got too unbearable yet you still talked about other stuff!!
but you are also very nice, cuz you sent me home while i was in pain. that’s very very nice!! thanks jason.. well at least you are aware of your flaws, and i guess you know what you’re gonna do about it.
[ray] that’s why , the apple never falls too far from the tree.
and yeah , I’m sure we’re thinking about the same person. i llike the term emotional vampire , hehehe .
and of course, i’m always trying to be a better person
[jacq] one good thing to learn , is the ability to say ‘no’ tactfully. so the person doesn’t get offended but stern enough so that the person doesn’t try his luck again. we’re all learning eh.
eh , one day we dota ! kakakaka
[farah] yeah , sorry I’m a little dense in that department. I have a problem with empathy and it really sucks. I can’t read between the lines and am quite blur.
I’m trying to improve though. Just need a reminder once in a while …
i find that as i grow up the worst of my mother also seems to be manifesting in me. fuck.
which leaves me horrified and disgusted at myself, for being what i swore not to become.
christ, dude, you read blogs at the oddest hours.
about the same time i am most awake LOL.
Hey ! Ill keep reminding u then !
I guess we all always need reminding. Soemtimes its not jsut about becoming your parents, all other bad habits u might also want to kick off.
Its called growing.
Irene, sometimes I feel like what we swore when we were young are hard to keep.
It seems like a biological thing to want to be as different from our parents eh? Like some kinda evolution thing, genetic variety to ensure a species’s survival. Any maybe I think too much..
About the hours, omg you commented at 5:30am. Even I’m asleep by then, that’s horrible, what do you do anyways ?
[stephanie] Thanks for reminding me always. You have the patience of Buddha when it come to me. That’s a compliment by the way ..
haha. can can! but im not as chun as you guys la!!!
only manage to kill daniel once!(outta anger, he laughed at me)
shall practise more after a levels….lolz
i barely sleep at night =P
vampire sleeping hours - and even then, sometimes i hardly sleep.
comes with the territory of manic depression.
i’m not an easy person to live with, unless you keep my hours hahahaha…
ooh and yeah thanks for linking me
it was fun hanging out with ya guys, and drowning ourselves with all the beer and smirnoff shooters. we gotta do this again if u ever come down to s’pore or i’m up to KL. photos will come soon after i chase rui for it.
At least you tried to talk to your dad, I never bother to talk to them unless necessary.
hahaha i guess as different as we want to be, we will eventually be like our parents, prolly not exactly but … there will be similarities without us realizing it
“i’m cooler than my dad coz he doesn’t haf a tattoo” —->>> ahahahhahahahahahahhahaa, tat’s funny!
sometimes, u dun really pay attention 2 my conversation too but i seriously dun mind, I know I’m too talkative when it comes 2 chatting session, haha!
the apple doesnt fall far from the tree.
ke mana jatuhnya kuah kalau tak ke nasi.
sometimes i hate it when my dad points out what i did wrong, or what i did not do right, or he points out the things that i lack. sometimes i notice that what i lack for in character is what he lacks in character as well. it’s like he’s insulting himself. through me.
true la. who else do we get our qualities and character from, if not from our parents? but yeah. sometimes being a spitting image is hard.
worse still. being compared to your parents. aiyoh. ouch. sadness, i tell you.
don’t ask what am i trying to say. i don’t know either.
[jasonmumbles] but hey i still have a hard time talking to my dad. Takes considerable effort on my part sometimes …
[evie] haha , and your daughter would be a nagger as well ?
[amy] yes, the younger generation is always cooler than the older. sorry about the lousy listener thing. I used to have it, and I’m trying to improve everyday. And no you’re not thaat talkative. Good kinda talkative anyways.
[aaronparan] ahh yes. What people critisize the most in others , is what they don’t like about themselves.
Phew , lucky I’m not compared to my dad. Actually, I compare myself sometimes. However , my adventure is not over yet !